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The us vs. them mentality just doesn’t work and it leaves us in a perpetual state of victimhood and duality. It is much harder, yet more empowering and rewarding, when we take our issues directly to the source of our discontent and have a crucial conversation with positive intent. What positive intent means is this. …
A first grader was hunched over in the corner, extremely upset, during class, on and off. He felt that his buddy “hated him” because his buddy was playing with other students and had other friends now. His buddy even checked in on him but the student hid his face. While I reminded his buddy that …
I have always thought there was something wrong with me. The slightest pang or imbalance in my body would cause such intense anxiety and this in turn would create more physical ailments. All of our fears and even our wounds can eventually end up in our body. For instance, my stomach is generally the home …
I believe we have many soulmates…people we connect with in some way lifetime after lifetime. When I was 29, I made a conscious choice to attract to me the person I would spend my life with. He entered shortly, thereafter. After years of observing and experiencing what I did not want, I decided to write …
Many times a person may come at you with negative intent. What this means is that a person thinks the worst about you, blames, attacks and assumes the worst. I have found that if you let it, the attack can leave you drained. If it goes around in your head, you are feeding the incident …
I’ve often found myself amazed at how easily I can go into tunnel vision and see how my ideas are right and everyone else is wrong. It is so easy to be sucked into an us vs. them mentality. We do it all of the time: In politics. When we see someone doing something we …
I didn’t realize how much energy I leaked all over the place. The constant worry, the doom and gloom feelings, the pain and suffering in the world, physical ailments, getting older, boredom, relationship struggles. It got too much! When I finally stopped to listen to what my body was telling me, it said “I have …
Do you ever go home upset about something and your spouse tries to tell you what to do? His/her intent is to make you feel better but inside you want to scream. This is how children feel when they are not given true empathy and validation. Here is an example: “you really wanted that ice …
The only one that can make me happy is ME! My husband, my family, nobody can make me happy but myself! My happiness is my responsibility and if ever I notice that I am getting angry at another because of what they are doing or not doing, it is a key that tells me, I …
When we give in to our child out of guilt, they actually internalize a feeling of “badness.” When we give in to our child because it is convenient – and we don’t want to deal with the conflict – we are building up resentment – which may come out later. Instead, make decisions that feel …
