EGO is not our enemy

For so long I looked at certain traits in myself and I judged them. I told myself I needed to change. I told myself I needed to do better…be better. Until one day it clicked. All of these things I condemned in myself I realized were my gifts to the world. When I started to finally embrace these traits and see them as gifts, I stopped apologizing for who and what I was. It was in this moment, I felt free to find opportunities that support my gifts. For instance, I used to say I needed to work on myself and have less ego especially when I would think to myself “Look at me…see me.” Even as a teacher, I judged myself because I did better when I was observed. One day, it hit me.  My whole life I pretended to be putting on a show. As a child most of my imaginary play was based on me being watched and there was a time I thought for sure I would grow up to be a famous actor. When I had my AH HA moment, I turned it around and declared “I love to perform and have an audience. ” I turned a perceived negative trait into a positive one.  When we truly love and accept all of our idiosyncrasies and unique ways of being in the world, we realize these are our gifts. This is our unique puzzle piece to the whole in which we are all needed. When we have such love and acceptance for ourself, this energy goes out into the world as love and acceptance. Hold your head up high…celebrate ALL of you today. Only good can come of it.

About the author

Kim Hiles (Dancing Feather) was born in Pennsylvania in the 1960s. Her mother was from Germany and met her father while stationed there. The family moved several times before settling in a town called Millis, Massachusetts.

Kim developed severe anxiety and depression as a child and struggled to find her way. Growing up, Kim was told by her grandmother that she wrote beautiful letters and had a way with words. Later in life, this memory would be a catalyst for sitting down and writing her memoir.

Continuing to say yes to life, Kim talks about her struggles of addiction, anxiety, depression and relationship issues, to name a few. She considers it her life mission to help empower others and uses her memoir as a way to offer guidance in living a more authentic life, following your dreams.

She has overcome much adversity and enjoys walking with others as they find their way. Kim has also co-written a young adult fantasy with her husband Will, called Little Wonders. Their pen name is K.W. Hiles.

Kim is a successful Educator, Social and Emotional Learning Specialist, Behavior Specialist, Mediator (Restorative Practices), 3rd degree Reiki Practitioner, and blogs regularly. In addition Kim offers online classes at Shamanic Passages Institute

Kim is considered highly sensitive and intuitive. Utilizing her gifts, her mission is to channel inspiration and healing and help spread some light. Empowering others to create the life of their dreams is the ultimate goal.

Kim is happily married (21+ years) and lives with her husband, son and their animal companions.

"I had a teacher who told us to go out that week and see how many Mercedes cars we noticed. When I came back I told her I had seen a lot! She asked me if I had seen any junk cars. I told her I didn’t remember seeing any. The next week she reversed it and asked us to go out and see how many junk cars we noticed. Of course we noticed a lot but didn’t remember seeing any Mercedes cars. Where is your focus? Is it on the problem or on the solution and more importantly, where would you like it to be?" -- Kim Hiles

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