My Soul mate 

I believe we have many soul mates…people we connect with in some way lifetime after lifetime. When I was 29, I made a conscious choice to attract to me the person I would spend my life with. He entered shortly, thereafter.

After years of observing and experiencing what I did not want, I decided to write down the kind of relationship I did want. Firstly, I realized how afraid I was of commitment and intimacy. I was attracted to what I couldn’t have and when I had it, I didn’t want it. This is a dance many play in avoiding deep relationship with others. For you see, regardless of the reason, fear, belief we have – until we look at the pattern we keep experiencing, it will continue to be our experience.
The first step is to become conscious and aware of the pattern we continually see and experience. The second step is to ask deeply, “How is this serving me?” Is it reinforcing a belief that says “I am unlovable”? Is it reinforcing a belief that says “Everyone disappoints and hurts me?” Whatever the case, is this experience something you want to keep around?

If it serves you no longer, make a conscious choice/intent to create something new. I wrote down an extensive list and pretended and felt, every day, that he was already in my life. He arrived shortly thereafter.

Relationships can be hard work because looking at yourself in the mirror isn’t always easy. Everyone has baggage! Our relationships bring it to the surface so it can be healed and loved.

My relationship with my husband has lasted so long because, 20 plus years ago, I made a decision to work through my stuff with Will. My relationship has worked because no matter how bad things did get, we both wanted it to work. And when things did get bad, it revealed to me what else within me, needed healing. He has been my greatest mirror and the more I love him through all his perceived “faults,” the more I love me and this works both ways.

I am grateful to my soul mate, best friend and lover. Stay tuned for my memoir coming out soon.

#peforthesoul #shamanicpassagesinstitute #soulmates

About the author

Kim Hiles (Dancing Feather) was born in Pennsylvania in the 1960s. Her mother was from Germany and met her father while stationed there. The family moved several times before settling in a town called Millis, Massachusetts.

Kim developed severe anxiety and depression as a child and struggled to find her way. Growing up, Kim was told by her grandmother that she wrote beautiful letters and had a way with words. Later in life, this memory would be a catalyst for sitting down and writing her memoir.

Continuing to say yes to life, Kim talks about her struggles of addiction, anxiety, depression and relationship issues, to name a few. She considers it her life mission to help empower others and uses her memoir as a way to offer guidance in living a more authentic life, following your dreams.

She has overcome much adversity and enjoys walking with others as they find their way. Kim has also co-written a young adult fantasy with her husband Will, called Little Wonders. Their pen name is K.W. Hiles.

Kim is a successful Educator, Social and Emotional Learning Specialist, Behavior Specialist, Mediator (Restorative Practices), 3rd degree Reiki Practitioner, and blogs regularly. In addition Kim offers online classes at Shamanic Passages Institute

Kim is considered highly sensitive and intuitive. Utilizing her gifts, her mission is to channel inspiration and healing and help spread some light. Empowering others to create the life of their dreams is the ultimate goal.

Kim is happily married (21+ years) and lives with her husband, son and their animal companions.

"I had a teacher who told us to go out that week and see how many Mercedes cars we noticed. When I came back I told her I had seen a lot! She asked me if I had seen any junk cars. I told her I didn’t remember seeing any. The next week she reversed it and asked us to go out and see how many junk cars we noticed. Of course we noticed a lot but didn’t remember seeing any Mercedes cars. Where is your focus? Is it on the problem or on the solution and more importantly, where would you like it to be?" -- Kim Hiles

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