Duality, the shadow and the power of love….

I’ve often found myself amazed at how easily I can go into tunnel vision and see how my ideas are right and everyone else is wrong. It is so easy to be sucked into an us vs. them mentality. We do it all of the time:

In politics.
When we see someone doing something we don’t like.
In relationships.
At work.

However, the truth is we all have a shadow self. We have all done things we don’t like. We have all inflicted harm on another, whether intentionally or not.

When we find ourselves closing ourselves off from other people’s ideas, thoughts, politics, beliefs, we are coming face to face with our shadow or I could say, duality (yin and yang). The key at this critical moment is to look at the object or idea of your discomfort and send love and forgiveness. Many times the other person wants the same things you do but are going about it differently or the way they were taught. When we stay in our tunnel vision we keep duality alive. When we love and forgive, we are embracing the totality of who we are, as everyone is a mirror, and we find peace, compassion, empathy and heaven on earth.

Just for today, listen, show compassion, send love and experience the feelings of peace envelop you.


About the author

Kim Hiles (Dancing Feather) was born in Pennsylvania in the 1960s. Her mother was from Germany and met her father while stationed there. The family moved several times before settling in a town called Millis, Massachusetts.

Kim developed severe anxiety and depression as a child and struggled to find her way. Growing up, Kim was told by her grandmother that she wrote beautiful letters and had a way with words. Later in life, this memory would be a catalyst for sitting down and writing her memoir.

Continuing to say yes to life, Kim talks about her struggles of addiction, anxiety, depression and relationship issues, to name a few. She considers it her life mission to help empower others and uses her memoir as a way to offer guidance in living a more authentic life, following your dreams.

She has overcome much adversity and enjoys walking with others as they find their way. Kim has also co-written a young adult fantasy with her husband Will, called Little Wonders. Their pen name is K.W. Hiles.

Kim is a successful Educator, Social and Emotional Learning Specialist, Behavior Specialist, Mediator (Restorative Practices), 3rd degree Reiki Practitioner, and blogs regularly. In addition Kim offers online classes at Shamanic Passages Institute

Kim is considered highly sensitive and intuitive. Utilizing her gifts, her mission is to channel inspiration and healing and help spread some light. Empowering others to create the life of their dreams is the ultimate goal.

Kim is happily married (21+ years) and lives with her husband, son and their animal companions.

"I had a teacher who told us to go out that week and see how many Mercedes cars we noticed. When I came back I told her I had seen a lot! She asked me if I had seen any junk cars. I told her I didn’t remember seeing any. The next week she reversed it and asked us to go out and see how many junk cars we noticed. Of course we noticed a lot but didn’t remember seeing any Mercedes cars. Where is your focus? Is it on the problem or on the solution and more importantly, where would you like it to be?" -- Kim Hiles

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